Tuesday, April 10, 2012

It's Just a Dress

I haven't updated on wedding plans since February.  Since I apparently have some Klout on the topic, I figure I should post something eventually.

Going through all these motions definitely makes me question and re-question our decision to actually have a ceremony.  I know that isn't the best thing to say, but the excitement hasn't really been where people have led me to believe it should be.  This is probably in part because I am not doing the whole bridal party thing -- if I haven't mentioned it before, the reason for that is to keep simplicity.  Of course, the trade-off is that the excitement seems to come from those, so hmmm.  [Fortunately, a number of my female friends have volunteered to keep things flowing that day so that things don't fall apart completely under my inexperienced watch.]

I recently went for my first expedition for a dress.  I'm not sure where I got the idea of "7 months prior" from, but I had procrastinated long enough and decided to take an initial stab.  As I was doing this, I reaffirmed my uncomfortable-ness when it comes to attention and that this is really just a freaking dress.

A couple of the "not-the-one"s:

Armed with a few pictures from the session, I decided that I would shop around a little bit more before deciding on one -- not "the" one, but "a" one.  While I can understand that people dream about this all of their lives and are set on a particular look, I just want one that is comfortable and not akin to a prom or quinceñera dress.  Oh, and within the budget -- I refuse to pay $1k for a dress that I will only rent or buy+wear once.

Finally, I just thought I'd mention I've been doing a lot of learning, reading, and introspection lately.  Marriage seems to amplify the need to know where you're at, so to speak, and no doubt there will need to be a lot of open-mindedness for everyone involved.


  1. I sorta felt like it was just a dress too, but actually looking at dresses and trying them on changed my mind. I still think I could have worn a potato sack (white/ivory and trimmed with lace, of course) and my family and guests would all say I look like a beautiful bride. They might whisper about my weird taste later, but not then. I'm sure you'll find something great.

    Is that the Hsi Lai Temple in Hacienda Heights?

  2. I think if you find something that you really like, even if it's very simple, you'll be very comfortable and happy in it. And enjoy this time. Wedding planning can be a pain in the butt, but it can be fun too!d

  3. Yeah, I don't understand spending $1k on a dress that would be worn once. But I am also a guy, so there are a lot of things I don't understand. ;-)

    Good luck with your wedding plans, and I hope you find a very nice dress that you like!